How do you signal to your partner that you’d quite like to have sex? Perhaps you don’t need to make a big song and dance about it, having already scheduled in dedicated time just for getting intimate. Maybe you’re a fan of a direct approach, declaring that you’re in need of an orgasm and would be grateful if your partner would lend a hand. Or you might just need to do a stretch or kiss your partner’s neck to let them know it’s on. We all have different ways to initiate sex… which can cause issues when your method – or the frequency with which you use it – doesn’t match up with a partner’s.
How are you to know that your partner was clearly hinting at sex when they said they wanted to go to bed early, if you tend to signal you’re not in the mood by saying how tired you are? Maybe knowing the most popular ways men and women initiate sex could help us decipher this particular code.
Bear in mind, before you read on, that this is a limited survey, not only in the number of people asked, but also because all those asked are users of a site that’s for having affairs – so their approach to sex and dating may not be representative of the general population.
Women’s most popular ways to initiate sex:
Long lingering kiss and suggestive smile Shall we make love?
Wearing provocative lingerie
Sending partner a sexy picture of themselves
Sliding hand down to man’s midriff
Stripping off in front of partner
Going to bed naked when they normally have nightwear
Setting the alarm for morning action
Romantic night in Breakfast in bed
Men’s most popular ways to initiate sex:
Fancy a quickie?
Caressing partner’s body in bed Scheduling sex with raunchy text earlier in day
Romantic night in – a meal with wine or champagne
Whispering ‘I want you’ in partner’s ear
Running her a bath
A long lingering kiss
Stripping off in front of partner
Breakfast in bed
Playful spanking
While for women the most popular way to get things going is a long kiss, the second favourite is asking verbally – which matches up to men’s preferred option, even if the actual words used are different.
The survey found that sex is initiated by men two thirds of time – 64% of men said they nearly always make the first move compared to 36% of women. Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: ‘Men and women use different tactics to initiate sex.
Source: metro.co.uk
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